Category Archives: Preparing for Sundays

The Privilege and Passion of Singles

This past Sunday I preached a sermon on 1 Corinthians 7:25-40. Through our study in God’s Word, we heard that “singleness and marriage are both gifts from God.  The problem we face is that we so lust after the next thing or the next person to satisfy us- longing for someone else’s life or someone else’s toys- that we lose sight of the purpose of our life. We are designed for God- designed to find our identity, provision, and rest in him.  In 1 Corinthians 7:25-40 Paul counsels that to live as a single person, you can live for Jesus with more single-minded devotion. So although marriage isn’t sinful and is even a gift, he wants to be clear that it will divide your mind and time from your allegiance to Christ.  In light of your design he encourages you to remain as you are and go hard after Christ.”

Some have requested some of the quotes and lists I gave on Sunday. I hope these are helpful.

We have all at one time or another become member of what Steve Childers calls, “The Cult of the Next Thing.”  We know we are members when we say internally or out loud, “I will be happy when… I get a job, I get money, I am not sick anymore, when my children are healthy, I get married, I get a friend, etc.” 98% of life is process only 2% is the end result that you pray for and hope for.  We must learn to enjoy the process and not just long for the end result. Paul says whether I abound or am in need I am content.  He knew God along the journey and he longs for us to commune with God in the “process” of life.

Elizabeth Elliott- “Don’t let your living for tomorrow slay your living for today.”

“Single folks: the patterns you form now, will be the patterns you take into your marriage. Labor now to be Godly or marriage will crush you!”- Tyler Jones

You don’t fix marriages or any relationship struggle by first trying to fix it horizontally. The change begins vertically.- Paul Tripp.

Finally here are some ways that married couples can serve and care for singles.

  1. Seek to connect singles for marriage with spiritual wisdom and sensitivity. Hook them up in a godly way.
  2. Don’t view them merely as babysitters
  3. Listen to them.
  4. Be there for them to give input into their dating relationships
  5. Invite them over for dinner
  6. Make them a part of your family. Fold them into family devotion time, intentionality with neighbords or fun time at the park.
  7. Encourage them with where you see God at work in them
  8. Serve them remembering there is no division of duties especially for the single women, and even more for the single moms.
  9. Pray for them- for their contentment in Christ,for a future spouse if that is their desire, etc.

Here are some links to listen or download the songs that we sang last week. Take some time to listen and worship God through singing in the everyday!

  • The Father’s Love by Joel Sczebel Listen or Download (Or download the whole album for $5 in the month of February!)
  • Glorious Day Words by J. Wilbur Chapman, Music by Michael Bleecker Listen or Download
  • Nothing but the Blood by Matt Redman Listen or Download
  • In the Shadow of the Glorious Cross by Brooks Ritter and Rebecca Bales Listen or Download

Embracing God’s love and extending His grace with you


Sex and Marriage

Last week, I preached from 1 Corinthians 7:1-9.  I tried to encourage us to view sex, in the context of marriage, as an act of worship where spouses are able to serve one another and glorify God through the gift of sexual intimacy.  If you missed the sermon, here is a link to watch online.

Also here is the video that was shown before the sermon.

Here is one way we were encouraged to fight lusting after others:

If you see another married person that you begin to be attracted to and lust after, if that person becomes a means of satisfying all your disgruntled thoughts regarding your spouse or present relationships, then don’t forget two things: 1. Your perception of them is skewed. You are blinded by your lust and you are overlooking that they are filled with faults too, and 2. You are forgetting that they are already one with another person. When someone sees me they must immediately see Dana.  We are one.  When I see Pastor Travis’ wife Julie I also should immediately think about Travis. They are inseparable.  They are one in the same.  May we remember the powerful union of marriage and the superior satisfaction that Christ is, compared to anything else we could crave.

This week we will continue our study of 1 Corinthians. Pastor Travis will be preaching through verses 10-24 of chapter 7. Join us as we deal with issues of contentment and “seek to find hope through pressing life circumstances that tend to grasp us and fling our hearts toward discontentment and despair.” -PT

And of course we will sing together. Get ready for our service by listening or downloading these songs!

At the Cross by Daniel Renstrom  Listen or Download
The Glories Of Calvary By Steve and Vicki Cook   Listen or Download
We Give Thanks by Jon Owens  Listen or Download
Stronger by: Benjamin David Fielding and Reuben Timothy Morgan   Listen or Download
Only Jesus by Doug Plank Listen or Download
Psalm 103 by Zach Jones  Listen or Download

See you on Sunday!

Our Body is For the Lord

Last week I preached a message titled “Our Body is For the Lord,” from 1 Corinthians 6:9-20.  If you missed the sermon,here is a link to listen or watch online.

This week we are continuing our study of 1 Corinthians. Our sermon text for this week is 1 Corinthians 7:1-9. The sermon will focus on the idea that

“Sex is gift from God for the context of marriage. It is meant to be an act of worship to God where spouses serve one another. It is never meant to be ultimate- an idol where people demand services to fulfill a lustful craving that has replaced God as supreme in their hearts. Come this week to read through, pray through and think through 1 Cor 7:1-9 where we discover what God has to say about sex and it’s beautiful design for intimacy in marriage. May God purify his church by creating God-honoring passionate marriages.”

Here are some quotes from the sermon:

Tim Keller- “Under every behavioral sin is the sin of idolatry. And under every act of idolatry is a disbelief in the gospel.”

Thomas Chalmers- How Do I flee sexual immorality and use my body for the Lord. Chalmers says, “What we need is the expulsive power of a new affection.”


Here are a few songs we will sing this week during our time of corporate worship through song:

Bless the Lord (Son of Man), Owens  Listen or Download

Laden with Guilt and Full of Fears, Watts, McCracken   Listen or Download

I Will Glory in my Redeemer, Cook  Listen or Download

Nothing but the Blood of Jesus, Redman   Listen Download

See you on Sunday!